Many couples are divorced before their wedding day, because one of the things that lead to divorce do not happen overnight.
It has always been there before the wedding and we overlook a lot of obstacles because we are blindly in love.
The magic is never in getting married but in remaining married.
Marriage and wedding are two different things; a wedding is a one-day celebration while marriage is for life.
It is not how much you spend on a wedding; it is how long you stay in a marriage.
Do not be flawed in believing that a wedding will automatically change a person’s character.
The only thing a wedding will change is your relationship status; from single to married.
If you would have to fight birth pretention, do not expect an overnight affection after the marriage. It is hard to change the person who is never ready to change.
Of course, many people can pretend to be what they are not, but there is a limit to how much a person can pretend if you are paying attention.
Dating is the initial stage of relationships and the reason we date is to know of the person we are bringing into our lives.
Always remember that no one is perfect and no one will ever be. Do not go into a relationship expecting a perfect partner; be open and flexible.
But if being too flexible is affecting your spinal cord, try and stand on your feet. Avoid putting a temporary person in a permanent position of your life.
Be honest with yourself.
Never bother age, family or social pressure force you into a miserable marriage. Families and friends can follow you to the wedding, but only you stay in a marriage.
Never marry to fix a big problem, but fix it before you get married.
Be prayerful, but do not use prayers where common sense is required. Never throw an obvious problem under the carpet if you want peace of mind.
A temperamental partner who gets angry and slaps you at any slight argument while you are dating might end up beating you after the wedding.
A materialistic partner who loves you for what you have may not stay for long when the road is rough.
Before embarking on a journey of searching for a soul-mate, make sure you have already found yourself. It is really hard to know what you are if you don’t know who you are.
Be very careful who you choose as a spouse your happiness and sadness depends on. When the foundation is poor, collapse is inevitable. Before saying I do, make sure you know what you are doing.
Inspiration by Akin Al Ameen
