It takes confidence to achieve great things. It’s a state of mind which can transform desires and dreams into reality. But a big part of taking risks which result in success involves the dialogue which happens in your mind. Here are several things confident people say to themselves, which less self-assured people do not.
“I’m not going to sink to that level.”
They reject crap-talking, gossip or any other kind of negativity directed toward others. Confident people don’t need to tear others down in order to feel built-up. Instead, they’re authentic about what’s going on in their world which entices others around them to be genuine and open, as well.
Confident people take a stand when people treat others wrongly, or are behaving badly. When they find themselves in a situation where someone is making things worse, they put an end to it.
“It will be fine.”
Worrying about what can and may go wrong is not a state of mind for the confident individual. They believe they can handle whatever life throws at them, regardless of how bad it gets.
“Let’s take a trip.”
Confident people travel. Or, it could be that traveling makes people confident. Researchers have found that taking a long trip in a foreign country can actually change your personality. Individuals who spend months in another country tend to have higher levels of Openness to Experience, Agreeableness and Emotional Stability compared with those who stay home.
“I don’t care what you think–at all.”
Confident people don’t spend their valuable time and energy worrying about the opinions of others. Rather, they live their lives according to their own high standards, not anyone else’s.
“I will rock this storm.”
If anyone is going to fix a bad situation, it will be the confident person who is able to take charge, prioritize what needs to be done and mobilize everyone else in the right directions.
“I’m not staying in this toxic environment.”
Confident people possess the self-esteem to protect themselves from people and situations which will derail their success.
They don’t wait around for opportunities, but seek them out. It may mean building new relationships, asking for more responsibility at work, or investing in a new endeavor. Confident people have a vision of what success looks like and map the path to getting there.
Christina DesMarais is a Contributor with the Inc.com
Her article was first published in the Inc.com